Challenge #16: Paying a compliment

Pay someone you care about a compliment.

Don’t just say it, you must really mean it!

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“Everybody likes a compliment.”

-Abraham Lincoln

Hey, folks!

Did you ever have a really bad day, but then someone surprised you with a nice compliment and you suddenly felt better? It’s really nice to experience something like that, whether being on the giving or the receiving end. In general, people really like to receive compliments.

It’s also very important that you don’t force it when paying a compliment. Don’t pay a compliment to someone without really meaning what you say. You have to feel it.

“If people did not compliment one another there would be little society.”

-Luc de Clapiers

Let’s write down the definition of “pay (someone) a compliment“:

It means to say something nice about someone directly to that someone.

5 Reasons Why You Should Pay a Compliment to Someone
  1. You can make someone’s day by paying him/her a compliment.
  2. It doesn’t take a lot of effort to pay a compliment, just a few seconds of your time and a few words.
  3. It’s 100 % free to pay a compliment.
  4. What goes around comes around – be nice to others, compliment them and you’ll receive a similar treatment.
  5. According to some studies, compliments spark creativity – you make someone feel better, and when people feel better they are more creative.

Natural balance

We really urge you to do your best to pay someone a compliment at least once this week. Since that is really not a lot, you can take it to the next level and pay someone a compliment every day.

“I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

-Mark Twain

Moreover, do your best to make a habit out of it. Trust us, it will make you and the people you spend your time with feel better.

How to pay a compliment

Here we’ll cover some simple instructions for those who have problems with paying compliments.

  1. Like we said before, you should always be genuine.
  2. Try looking a person into their eyes when paying them a compliment.
  3. Try and be very specific when paying a compliment. More detailed you are, greater the chances that the person you’re addressing will know you really mean it.
  4. Timing is important – not every kind of compliment is appropriate in every situation.
  5. Be as respectful as possible – you don’t want your compliment to come off as an offense.
  6. Make sure not to start a conversation about you right after you’ve paid a compliment to someone – that way you can seem like you’re making it all about yourself.
  7. Try complimenting on things the receiver values.

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You can pay a compliment to people that are close to you or to a complete stranger. The latter is a bit more sensitive, so you should pay extra attention to how you’ll do it. But at the same time, complimenting a stranger can have an even stronger effect, since people love random acts of kindness.

“The small things you do everyday – smiling at a stranger or paying someone a complimet – bring you closer to your spiritual truth, the purity of your soul.”

-Deepak Chopra

Take-home points:
  • Pay compliments as often as possible.
  • Pay compliments the right way.
  • Pay compliment only when you mean it.

We know you’ll do your best. 😉

Love and care,

Good Earthlings

 

8 comments

  1. Roope says:

    Great post! It’s a good reminder how important compliments are. And I believe what you said that what we give to others, we will also receive ourselves. When we say compliments to other people, eventually it will also benefit ourselves. But not only that because it has so many other benefits as you mentioned. I think that reading this kind of positive posts makes life happier. 🙂

    • Good Earthling says:

      Roope, thank you for sharing your thoughts. Will you join in on our other challenges? We hope to hear from you again soon.

      Warm regards,

      Good Earthlings

    • Chris says:

      Wow! What an awesome idea! I love the positive vibes of your website 🙂 I feel like this is one way to change the world. Yeah it might be small, but the mathematicians say that a butterfly flapping its wings can cause a hurricane! When we give someone a compliment, it brightens that person’s day and makes them more likely to do something positive as well. And if they choose to do something positive for someone else, the wave continues to ripple outward! Thank you for caring about our planet 🙂 I’ve added your site to my favorites!

      • Good Earthling says:

        Thank you, Chris! Stay in touch.

        Warm regards,

        Good Earthlings

      • Andrew says:

        This is an amazing article. Very well said (or written rather). Compliments can do wonders. It’s a chain reaction of goodness. Be nice and compliment one person and the same good effects can be chained to reach 100 person by the end of the day. It’s true. Just a simple greeting and sincere compliment can truly make a person’s day.

        • Good Earthling says:

          Thank you, Andrew.

          Stay in touch.

          BR,

          Good Earthlings

        • Sergio says:

          I second every word you wrote. Gratitude and compliments look like rare treasures nowadays, and sometimes I’m guilty of that too. I think I’m quite kind by nature, but it is not so easy for me to take one step further. When somebody pays me a compliment, then, sometimes my first thought is: “Oh, maybe he/she wants something from me”. I know it is silly and selfish, so maybe your article will inspire me to change my attitude.